· NFL cheerleader calendars
· Airbrushed cover model photos
· Larger-than-life, ever-so-revealing posters at Victoria’s Secret
· Hooters restaurants
· Women leaning over near our husbands with a low-cut dress, impossibly large breasts, and a WonderBra
· Women bending over near our husbands with low-cut jeans, a black lacy thong, and a butterfly tramp stamp
Why do we dislike these things?
Women are hard-wired to see every major and minor flaw in our physique. Meanwhile, men are hard-wired to drool like Pavlov’s dogs at any bootylicious babe within a five-mile radius. Sometimes, we find ourselves in situations that scream, You aren’t doing it for him, and that chick is!
Perhaps I’m overly sensitive. Does my husband really spend his time in the grocery line gazing at the Cosmopolitan magazine cover model with the caption “1001 Ways to Please Your Man”? Does he fixate on the hard-body 19 year old in her string bikini jogging up the beach while I drag our children, a beach umbrella, a mesh tote, and sand buckets to the shoreline? I’ve never caught him doing so.
But sometimes I wonder how my man can be satisfied with the not-so-perfect gal he’s got at home when there are so many gorgeous ladies behind the other Let’s-Make-a-Deal doors?
And yet, most men are quite content. For a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Or, in this case, a pretty-enough wife in the home is worth two babes in the magazine. I love what Paul Newman said about staying true to his wife of fifty years: “Why fool around with hamburger when you have steak at home?” Was Joanne Woodward the prettiest woman you’ve ever seen? She was to Paul, and she was right there at home.
The Bible is clear that we need to keep our eyes from those who would entice us away from a faithful marriage (Job 31:1). But if your husband happens to catch a glimpse of Megan Fox, Angelina Jolie, or Beyoncé in a particularly revealing outfit or pose, he’s not thinking about that when you get home and change into your birthday suit. You’re not in competition at that moment with every teaser and tantalizer. Intimacy and availability trump imperfection every time.
Besides, unlike supermodels, most of us do not have a nanny to care for our children while a personal trainer and dietician whip us into shape, a make-up artist and fashion designer to ready us for a photo shoot, or a photographer and magazine editor to airbrush out arm flab and crows’ feet. Our husbands know that. Even so, we should display to them the beauty that God delicately wove into us.
Your husband found you attractive, chose you, wants you. You are still desirable. Keep yourself up, as best you can. Help him have eyes only for you. And remember, when you are in his sights, images of other women fall out of his memory like old high school algebra equations.
“You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.”
Song of Songs 4:7